Freedom through Forgiveness

What is forgiveness?

When things go wrong between us and someone else, or when we hurt someone, there is a burden that is placed upon both parts. These burdens can take many forms: guilt, anger, frustration. At its core, forgiveness recognizes what it is to be human, the divinity within us, and chooses to free both oneself and others from the influence of those negative emotions that burden us. As we are human, we make mistakes. It is wise and kind to accept them and allow everyone involved to move on and heal… even yourself! Especially yourself.

You may feel like what you did was unforgivable. I don’t believe in unforgivable offense, everyone deserves the chance to recognize and learn from a negative experience: that is the essence of change.

The process…

Let me guide you through the process of forgiveness in this video. You will learn to welcome your imperfections and love yourself the way you are. There is goodness within you, no matter what wrongs we may have done or endured. That goodness is so powerful that it will turn every mistake into wisdom, all the pain you go through will manifest itself into love through time. Please watch the video when you are ready, and open yourself to forgiveness. You can forgive yourself or someone else, or even a situation.

Freedom

Once you recognize and forgive, the burdens will slowly and consciously lift from your shoulders. Relief comes with time and carries with it the knowledge needed to be a higher version of yourself. It takes strength to bless someone or something that hurt you, even if that person is yourself, but once you do it, you will feel that strength coursing through you, and the people in your life will certainly appreciate your higher vibrations as well.

Thank you for opening yourself to forgiveness. This practice is a beautiful one, full of love. Congratulations on this experience, please let me know how you felt.

With love,

Fernando.

NLP Training

NLP Practitioner Training, Newark

We have spoken about NLP and MER before. In fact, there’s an article about each of these wonderful techniques in my blog! But this time, I’m excited to announce that I’ll be attending a training, extensive and focused, on the 20th through 23rd of this month.

As usual, when these opportunities arise, I’m always first to sign up, seeking to expand my knowledge in these fields so I can count with a broader spectrum of tools to help my clients, and even share with you online. That said, it’s a unique experience I hope will bring in many positive things: learning under Dr. Matt from Empowerment, Inc. and his trusted Trainers, being first and foremost.

There’s something amazing about great volumes of knowledge being offered in workshops like these. They are not only a moment to learn, but also to form strong bonds that will last forever, dedicated on making the world a better place by empowering people all around it to be the best version of themselves!

Keep your eyes peeled for my updates from the Workshop, I’m sure there will be lots to share with you.

Here’s an excerpt from their page:

“At the Integrative NLP Practitioner Certification® Training, you’ll receive hands-on training, demonstrations, tools and techniques, and an action plan to put into practice as a certified practitioner following the sessions. Best of all, sessions are backed by our 100%‑satisfaction guarantee.”

This is also an encouragement for you. I have over ten years of training in NLP, and I’m always looking for more. The secret to success, as we’ve talked before, is allowing yourself room to grow and fighting stagnation with challenges that keep you always on your toes, ready to make a leap of faith to bigger and better achievements each time.

Thank you, as always, for reading. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!

Love,

Fernando.

MER: Introduction to Mental Emotional Release

To answer the question ‘What is Mental Emotional Release?’ we first must pose another set of questions: Can our Energy help us stay healthy? Are we humans truly in control of our situation, when we are bombarded with negativity all around?

These are questions I often come across in this field, but fear not! The answer to both questions is definitely yes. If you’ve seen my ‘Must Read’ section, you’ll know there’s a lot to be learned from the 1990 book “Beliefs” by Robert Dilts, Tim Hallbom and Suzi Smith. But let’s take an even closer look to the nature of our Mind’s Power, shall we?

We’re made aware, through a series of studies that R. Lipton referenced in his book “Biology of beliefs”, that cells respond to their environment accordingly. “The cells could be observed reacting positively to positive energy and negatively to negative energy. And the response was almost immediate,” says an article1 from Psychology Today. I personally think that’s fascinating. If our energies are so intrinsically connected to our body’s health, then we have no time to lose in taking the first step towards fostering Healthier Energy.

The Method of Mental Emotional Release

You may be aware of the problems in your everyday life; or stress may come from the world around you. No matter what, never be deluded into thinking that you cannot do anything about that stress! The truth is that our body knows how to keep us safe and healthy in dire situations, and all we need to do is persuade the unconscious mind to tap into that atavist knowledge. This process is spearheaded by Mental Emotional Release (MER for short), a process Dr. Matt James devised, which has helped countless people let go of their limiting, unconscious beliefs and guide their body and mind into alignment. If you’d like to hear about Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which goes hand in hand with MER, here’s an article about it!

What do you think about this? Have you ever been aware of your energy helping or sabotaging you?

As always, your feedback is greatly appreciated. If you’d like to know more about MER, feel free to contact us.

Kindly, Fernando.

Unmasking the One-person Success

A brief history of Success

Throughout the ages of humanity, the idea of success has changed at a speedy pace. Taking 5th century BCE Athens as an example, we know its people, just having seen a tyrant fall, valued politics greatly. The mark of success then could be drawn between those who achieved a political position within their city-state, preferably within the council, and those who never did.

Some of these successful individuals have transcended their time and space and their lives are remembered even today, long after they have died. But, do we have to measure them with the same scale of success? In the book Mindset, the new Psychology of Success (2006, Carol S. Dweck) we can see how success; or rather, the way we view it, has taken a turn. Dweck tells us about Thomas Edison, who, contrary to what you might be thinking, wasn’t a reclusive genius in a lab-coat but a savvy entrepreneur who knew how to catch the eyes of the press.

The question that needs asking

Why does this idea of a lone genius prevail in our minds, then? Here’s what Mindset can teach us about it:

“There are many myths about ability and achievement, especially about the lone, brilliant person suddenly producing amazing things.”(Dweck, 2006, page 57)

If we look deeper into it, we can see that people tend to blame their own failures on others. When it comes to comparing oneself, it’s easy to say “Yes, Edison was a genius and one-of-a-kind, that’s why he succeeded and I don’t”. You’d be surprised to see how many people are inclined to compliment others using words like talent, inspiration and genius.

What really makes people tick, as Dweck puts it? It’s not strict discipline, and it certainly isn’t ‘dumbed-down’ content. We conclude that people thrive when their curiosities are encouraged, their minds fed constant incentives in a loving network of support and companionship. There’s this distinction between people with a ‘growth’ mindset, those who challenge themselves to constantly do better and learn proactively, and people with a ‘fixed’ mindset. It’s as simple as “I couldn’t pass this exam, so I must be dumb”.

The wonderful thing about people is that anyone can develop to unbelievable extents, given the proper guidance and encouragement. Changing from a fixed to a growth mindset is not only possible, but important to do as early as possible. Allow your potential to unfold and never stagnate!

Love,

Fernando.

NLP: Why we considered it the language of the mind?

The meaning.

In the past, I have told you about different methods that fall within the NLP practice. However, some of you might not know what that even means! The acronym stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. As that name suggests, this practice focuses on understanding the language of the mind, by equating it with a system whose internal workings can be changed and altered to obtain the desired outcome. In short, our mind, much like a computer, has an internal language that can be changed through programming. 🧠 💡

The rol of the practicioner.

So, what does an NLP practitioner do? Let me answer that question with another question: Have you noticed that, sometimes, people seem to be hiding a deeper, true meaning behind their words? For example, if you talk to your friend and they express a fear of not being good enough by saying “I never thought I could get this job,” chances are this person is subconsciously limiting themself. Someone who knows the way of the Neuro linguistic programming may immediately identify the underlying fear, the language your friend uses to express it, and an effective way to change that damaging belief. Your friend will not only be confident in their position but achieve more and more with time. Nothing is out of reach with NLP. A promotion, a raise, even finding a rare position at your dream job: you can do it! 💪🏻

Here some’s websites with events, info, and courses that you can read and learn more about this new way to improve your life 🌐💻:

The benefits and my personal journey

For some people, this seems idealistic. However, has reach yielded wondrous results, allowing patients to improve their relationship with the subconscious mind and heal from things like Anxiety, Depression, Addictive Behaviors, etc. in as little as one session! 🤯🤗

As for myself, I have been learning NLP for ten years, and completed the following trainings:

  • NLP Trainers of Influence, & NLP Speaker of Influence at Trainers’ Trainer (2020).
  • NLP Master Practitioner, Master Practitioner in Hypnotherapy & Master Practitioner in Emotional and Mental Release (2018).
  • NLP Practitioner (2012)

Here is a great video from Dr. Matt James, Founder of nlp.com and one of the most influential person of this practice:

Do you have any questions? Be sure to leave a comment below if you would like to know more about this language of neuro linguistic , the ultimate Tool for Success!

Feel free to contact us to help you and teach you all this practices!

Thank you! 🙏🏼

Fernando Goncalves Borrega.

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The Challenge of Success – A Japanese story

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The culture of Japan uses fish for many dishes, and of course the fresher the fish, the better its taste. However, its waters haven’t had enough fish in decades, so fishing boats ventured farther into the seas to retrieve their precious food. Understandably enough the people of Japan noticed the fish lacked its required freshness, forcing the fishing companies to challenge their minds in search for an answer that provides both quality and revenue. Instead of storing the fish, which would then arrive to port dead, they installed tanks in which to place the fish. The sales managed to improve by a margin, but there was still a major concern: the fish, without need for much movement inside those tanks, became lethargic and their quality decreased. Although they were fresh by definition, the taste was that of older catch!

When we reach our goals and plateau onto safety, we may find ourselves acting similarly to these fish. We may think we have achieved a Greater Purpose, and as such it is time to relax and let go of our vitality. That couldn’t be any further from the truth, as our existence requires to be constantly spurred into activity so we may retain, much like the fish, our freshness. As Mike Bundrandt, co-founder of iNLP, says: “It’s all about alignment.” Meaning, if a part of you is stagnant and wants to stop pushing for success, you will surely self-sabotage. Nobody can hope to thrive in a perfectly safe tank, without much space for exercise and devoid of need for innovation.

What would you do, if you were in the place of these Fishing Companies? How would you challenge the fish to remain active and very much alive, aligning them to their goal?

What they came up with was a very creative solution. By having their fish travel with a small shark up to shore, they ensured they would never stop swimming. Even if the shark ate a few fish during the trip, the companies saw an increase in sales, and people were no longer complaining about the taste of the catch!

Like these fish, becoming complacent dulls our spirit. We invite you to let a shark into your tank, so you may never be too far from a challenge to keep your soul fresh. This secret has helped businesses thrive in Japan, as it has all around the globe. By taking risks, you liven up the drive of your enterprise and ensure its leading position. Do not stagnate in the challenge of success!

Lastly, we would like to emphasize how very important it is that you follow the Success Principle, and align every part of you towards safeguarding from stagnating. Surely, that can’t be any good when your goal is set high! To quote Kain Ramsay : “Revel in what you’ve achieved in life so far, but make sure always to raise the bar a little higher each time you strike a winning goal.”

That’s the key to unstoppable success! Thank you for reading this post and let us know in the comments if we can anything for you!

Kindly, Fernando.

Super power for super kids – New morning routine for your children

The new super powers for the super kids!

Helping your kids unleash their Super Powers is not only easy but also fun! You can help them do these exercises when they wake up, before they go to school and when they return home from a day of learning!

Before continuing on to this Morning Exercise we would like to share Why it’s important to practice and make this a fun and Daily Morning routine for your kids and, of course, for you: mom, dad, uncle or school teacher.

Did you notice that everybody wakes up with different moods?

Does that happen to you? We, as adults, develop different conscious or unconscious behaviors. They can go as follows:

  • Take a shower
  • Prepare Coffee, Tea, Mate (Argentinian drink, from my beloved home)
  • Take any medications
  • Or some of go for a run, or dip in the swimming pool, gym, etc.

Did you notice that sometimes your kids get to school and they are not awake? Or, if they are awake, you can notice that they are not fully centered or lack a clear mind?

At this point you might ask yourself «What can I do to support my child?»

Don’t you agree that if your child gets to the classroom happy, awake, fully alert and inspired to learn and absorb the information that the Teacher is about to deliver, they will be doing a better job, and also end up having a great time learning and doing their best at it? Isn’t that An Amazing Reason to implement a 10-minute exercise, a Morning Daily Routine to Awaken their Super Power, to step into their Super Powers so they can become Super Students and Super Kids 🙂 … I know it sounds very idealistic… the best part is IT WORKS!

As a father, I tried the technique and it really made a difference in my son’s life.

The Exercise

Now, what is “Super Powers for Super Kids’ morning routine to awaken and rock your day”?

It’s a 10-minute exercise that will produce many profound effects in your kids’ life such as a stronger connection with their parents, that will bring forth a sense of confidence and develop the certainty that will be very needed when they have to make decisions away from mom or dad.

These exercises will awaken their body from head to toes. The Energy Body and Energy Centers, meridians, and cells; as well as the physical body and body parts: from the irrigation and activation of the blood streams in all directions, to the muscles, brain and brain cells, organs, tendons and bones.

And the mental body will be awoken subtly and playfully with a suggestion of the possibility of stepping into their Super Powers. This will give them a bit of confidence and a great positive attitude to learn and overcome obstacles in such an early stage of their life.

Don’t you love the idea of being able to prepare your kids in such deep and thorough way? For me it was the only way, since my son (and myself) had learning disabilities. 

The good news is You don’t need to have a child with learning disabilities to do “Super Powers for Super Kids, a morning routine to awaken and rock your day”!

Now this is the moment of truth that you were waiting for: the “Super Powers for Super Kids’ morning routine to awaken and rock your day” step-by-step, so you can read about it before watching the Video.

The first step is Gratefulness: your kids should join their hands together or hold them palms-up and say a few words of Thanks to the Supreme Creator. In the Video, we can see an example of this:

«Thank you for giving me this beautiful day, thank you for allowing me to access my Super-powers: my super-creative mind, eyes, my super-powerful body and my super-kindness!»

The second step is activating the hands by rubbing them. As these are our instruments of creation, love and thanks, they are very important in the process of unleashing these Super-powers! Draw a smiley face in the thumb-nail of each hand and get ready for the next step:

Activating Super-Vision. To do this, your kids should stretch their hand and put a thumb in front of their face. Now they will smile back to the face in the thumb-nail as they move that hand in circles, always following the smiley with their eyes. Once this has been done seven times in one direction, they will change hands and repeat in the other direction. Almost there for Super-Vision! Now they can rub their hands together once more and fill the super-vision with super energy, rubbing their eyes with their Charged hands! Next is a sweeping motion to the back of the head: let’s part with the tension we’ve built up and throw it like a basketball. Do this twice to have a clean mind.

Now, let’s prepare the mind! It’s important that the mind is fully prepared to learn all the wonderful subjects of school and everyday life. To do that, they will start with the right hand to the forehead and sweep all the worries all the way to the tip of the left hand, throwing them away too. This is done seven times, always breathing in and out with the motion. As they do this, your kids should always touch their body with their hand: from the forehead, to the neck, to the shoulder, to the arm and hand. Next, repeat with the opposite hand seven more times.

Celebrate and feel the difference, how the learning center is cleansed and activated, prepared for the day ahead, or a good night of sleep.

Let’s keep cleaning the head now! With the tongue to the roof of the mouth, they will bring the head down, relaxed. Next, a deep breath as they roll their head back, and exhale as they return the head to where it was before, seven times again. This can be done with the arms resting on the hips, for more stability, in a Super posture!

Next up, the Super Senses: Super-hearing, Super-smell and Super-taste. With the tongue to the palate once more, breathe in to the left and exhale to the right seven times, still in the Super posture. Feel the difference and celebrate!

Now let’s clean the shoulders, chest, lungs and heart chakra in the center of the chest with seven shoulder rotations to the back and seven forward. Always smile to your shoulders and chest, be grateful to your energies! Then come seven full arms rotations to the back and seven to the front.

Now throw the tension out. Tell your kids to do it as if they were celebrating, with their hands closed when they touch the shoulders, and open when they go forward, seven times. Then, seven wrist movements to activate them, one set in each direction. Shake it up to release all the tension and worries like before, throwing the arms forward with the hands into fists.

The following step is super cleaning the Super-Spine! Your kids should stand in a stable position with their feet slightly apart and the knees bent just a bit. Then, lift the arms to half the torso and do some rotations inhaling to the left and exhaling to the right seven times. They can also end with some twists with lax arms to fully feel the relaxation!

Time for the Super Dancing Move. The movement is a clockwise hip turn, seven times, like doing a Super Dance, and then the reverse to distribute the energy evenly to all the parts of the body.

Next, let’s bring that energy to the legs. If your kids struggle with balance you can hold their hand as they do low forward kicks seven times. Feel the difference between the leg that did the exercise and the one that didn’t. The leg that did is full of energy, but we can’t let the other leg miss out, so repeat the exercise with it.

With the back to the wall or holding hands for support, raise a leg and then raise the foot so the toes point up, then down seven times. When that’s done, do some fun ankle twists: seven in each direction. Breathe for a while and repeat with the other leg so your other leg is filled with energy too!

Here you can also find other similar routines for our children’s mornings:

Congratulations! You got your superpowers!

Time to shake it up again! Congratulations, you and your kids unleashed the Super Powers!

I hope that you like it. We only ask for your feedback in return to make it better. To help teachers, moms, dads to prepare ourselves and our Kids for the real world with the most powerful tools and unleash power that lives within and needs to be awakened every day until they grow old.

Please, feel free to Contact Us if you have any questions. If you think that there is anything that we need to know or the we will benefit from, We will be very happy to listen, to have an understanding of your concepts or suggestions.

And, also, we would love to hear what you learned!

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Kindly, Fernando